The JoiLotus Garden: Respect the Process

"All living things must grow, evolve, adapt, or die."
~ Alvin Conway

We are all ever evolving.

Unlike the one time transformation of the caterpillar as it molts into a shiny chrysalis casing, we are subject to varying cycles of continuous change over the course of a lifetime.

Calls into evolvement while seeking higher levels in divine order and purpose are inevitable.

It is important that we move through each course the journey presents in preparation for the next steps in our spiritual development. If the evolvement through each lesson is interrupted maturation is stunted.

The challenge lies in overcoming our fear of change enough to permit the process to be completed naturally and individually.

Our ego mind introduces fear of growth and change, causing resistance to the process; our own and those closest to us. Too often, we intervene to interrupt the necessary evolvement of another in efforts to control situations and outcomes in favor of our comfort. When we do this, we delay another's expansion and refuse our own.

Just as we endure our transformation challenges with patient endurance, we must yield to the molting process of our friends, family, and fellow travelers. Allowing the individual growth of those who move in and out of our personal experience is necessary and everyone's process should be respected.

It is not our place to make attempts at ordering another's transformation process. Often we hinder the progress of others to impose our own agenda upon their lives.

When those we care about find a new circle of friends, go off to school, take a new job, decide to relocate, or choose love with someone else, the temptation to engage in behaviors that interrupt their process to suit our comfort can threaten to overtake us.

"Evolution is nature's creative way of pushing living organisms to higher degrees of complexity. We adapt up, not compromise down." ~ Alvin Conway

Uncomfortable stages will be presented, however, we must learn to resist the urge to order the transformation of another.

Breaking the shell of someone else's chrysalis has the potential to destroy valuable steps in their transformation. To crack open the chrysalis of another means we pierce that of our own.

As we grow and increase in wisdom, we will learn the danger of engaging in this practice. We must master the art of quiet, patient support as we encourage another on to the higher levels.

My greatest challenge in this area has been in my relationship with my children, especially as I look to send my daughter off to college in the Fall. Needless to say, I am still growing.

Exchange the fear of the ego mind to rest easy in the expectation of joy-filled expansion that awaits on the other side of the chrysalis for all in your circle.

Invite your personal evolvement and allow others to complete theirs without interruption. It is not yours to order.

All of our proactive energy should be focused upon our own evolvement.

Respect the process.

Do you resist your chrysalis of transformation experiences?
Has fear of change and need for control made you disruptive to the growth process of others?
What limits your focused attention on the completion of your own evolvement?

"We are being transformed into that same image from one degree of glory to the next degree of glory. This comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit." ~ 2 Corinthians 3:18