That famous line from the film, Jerry McGuire made women the world over swoon and sigh with longing to hear the one she loved speak those words. Moments like this for many women are seated in the desire for male friendship, affection and attention. The roots of this sacred energy are paternal and provide a direct link to the genesis of Divine love, our Creator Father.
Seeing my daughter with her dad brings to mind the great affection I have for my late grandfather. He had a hearty appetite for life and his laughter would ignite joy in the heart of anyone fortunate to catch it on the wind. One of his favorite things to say before he left the supper table was, "I got one little corner left to fill."
"It doesn't matter who my father was; it matters who I remember he was." ~ Anne Sexton
Though I did not grow up with my father, my granddaddy taught me to value myself and told me I should expect to be treated well in relationships. No father-daughter ties are without issues and my natural father is a good man. I am well beyond blaming anyone for the past. I am grateful and choose to focus on the time I still have to know him. This human experience seldom allows for perfection, however, there are perfect moments of love. The earth plane is where healing occurs and knowing my earthly father completes me because it defines me and our time exists along that sacred golden strand connecting us with our Creator Father.
If Cinderella were given a single, shining epiphany she would have realized, "This is my father's house. This is my father's estate! I am the rightful heiress to everything here!" ~ C. Joybell C.
Women have been fed via intravenous drip fairy tales rife with handsome princes and dashing knights serving as saviors most of our lives. Yet the determining element of these stories, the foundation of the father-daughter relationship is the least explored. The princess believes in the prince because the concept has been illustrated by her father's example of consistent provision, protection, respect and love without conditions. This provides a yardstick against which she can measure an appropriate suitor.
"Somebody almost ran off with all my stuff and I was standing there looking at myself the whole time. It wasn't a spirit. It was a man faster than my innocence." ~ Ntozake Shange, For Colored Girls
Minus the father-daughter interaction, many women take up the quest to find a prince with ill-defined ideas of what a healthy relationship looks or feels like which skews her choices from the beginning. Armed with a phantom concept and little stamina for waiting, we desperately seek that longed for male energy, the happily ever after prince to fill that "one little corner". It is unfortunate that often we wind up settling instead for scraps, spares, and shares along the way.
"And over all these virtues, put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity." ~ Colossians 3:14
If you never hear it from your earthly father, embrace that which is true. You are never disconnected from the divine masculine. Healing begets healing and what you seek does not exist outside your being. Go inside your temple and connect with the void. Acknowledge it. Forgive it. Release it. In that stillness, listen for the voice of your Divine Father and let it complete the tapestry of perfect love personified you are becoming. You are worthy because He says you are worthy. You are beautiful because He says you are beautiful. He can fill that "one little corner". Know that your validation begins in Him. We must heal the "corners" in our hearts that long for our fathers or we will seek completion in the unworthy masquerading as princes and knights.
So daughter, heal thyself.
"As old as she was, she still missed her Daddy sometimes." ~ Gloria Naylor
What effect has the image you hold of your father had on your choices in love relationships?
Are there road blocks to healing your relationship with your father?
What have you allowed hoping to fill that "one little corner"?
